On November 28, 2010, in Life lessons for my Daughter, by Sean

Sex is a funny thing on the one hand everyone will try to convince you that its no big deal “…everyone is doing it” while on the other hand they will repeatedly urge to do it and make you feel like a freak if you are not. I can understand your being confused about the issue. Which is it, the most important thing since sliced bread or merely a casual interchange being two people.  Well honey I’m here to tell you it is massively important and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Don’t buy into the lie of safe sex, there is no such thing! All sex opens doorways to your soul and what you allow to get inside you as a result can have devastating consequences that you didn’t anticipate.  When you have sex with someone you give them a little piece of yourself; the more you do it the more you give away and the deeper the connection goes. It is quite possible to be completely unaware of this happening and in fact that is usually the case. Most people’s consciences are so seared that they have lost the ability to percieve the damage that they are perpetrating upon themselves.

Ask yourself a question why is the idea of a 40 year old virgin such an absurdity in our society that a film based on that concept is a best selling comedy hit. In my mind someone who had abstained for that long should be commended for their principles and or at the very least it should be a non-issue. But the level of ridicule that is directed to the virgin in this show demonstrates that our society clearly has a misguided view towards sex.

The purpose of sex is to draw two people who are in a lifetime committed relationship closer together by providing a positive feedback loop. Sex at its best opens you to your partner and they to you which fosters relationship building and draws you closer together.  The fact that it feels incredible makes you want to do it more and the virtuous circle continues. In this atmosphere of love and trust all sorts of hurts and hang ups can be resolved as each partner feels safe to share their deepest feelings and the other full of grace and compassion provides them a safe environment in which to do so.  This is the ideal, the bullseye, sex functioning perfectly as intended; as I’m sure you can imagine this is not the reality for most people today. Multiple partners corrupts the purity of your union with your soulmate.

Each sexual relationship you have outside of marriage will leave behind a piece of baggage in your soul, some bigger than others.  Quite often the biggest hurts in a person’s life are the result of a sexual relationship or are expressed sexually. This reality taints sex in ways that are often quite subtle; because despite all of this sex still feels great and that great feeling is like novocaine at the dentist’s office, it makes you feel great while damage is being done; unfortunately, in this case its not for your benefit.

I could go on at length about the war for your soul that is being played out and how sex is one of the major weapons wielded by the enemy to take you out but I think the point has been made. Sex is important, who you choose to have it with will affect you for the rest of your life, so choose wisely. When I am walking you down the aisle someday I hope you are happy with your decisions and that the white of your dress will be a true representation of the purity of the bride.


4 Responses to Sex

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  4. Tracy says:

    We don’t often hear the view of a father sharing his insight to his daughter in-regard to sex. Young girls need to know how precious morals and values are.

    I too believe when we decide to share ourselves with another human being it is a gift that is not meant to be exploited by others but cherished. Passed your values onto your daughter is a treasure!

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